Before Alzheimer’s came into my
life, I considered it to be an equal opportunity disease affecting males and
females the same way. During my years of involvement, I began to realize that
Alzheimer’s had a bigger impact on women than on men.
The 2014 Alzheimer’s Disease Facts and Figures includes a “Special Report:
Women and Alzheimer’s Disease.” This
report highlights several studies that bear witness to the higher burden the
disease has on women.
Out of all Americans with Alzheimer’s,
two-thirds are women. Why? The most obvious factor is age. Women have longer
lifespans and are more likely to reach the age of highest risk. Women are more
concerned than men about developing Alzheimer’s, and with good reason. A sixty-five
year old woman has a 20 percent lifetime risk of developing dementia during her
lifetime. I don’t know about you, but I’m not happy with those odds.
I admit that before Jim developed
dementia, I never gave much consideration to how unfair Alzheimer’s is to the
person with the disease and the caregiver. I had no concept of the breadth and
scope of the disease—how all consuming it can be.
Being a caregiver for my husband was
never a part of my vision of our life together. Jim never seemed like the type
of person who would ever be anything but decisive, a man of strong convictions,
protective, creative, and loving. Never in my wildest imagination could I have
envisioned the turn our lives would take when he developed dementia. And
certainly, if an Alzheimer’s type of dementia had ever entered my mind, I would
have thought of him as an elderly man, not one who wouldn’t live to see his
sixtieth birthday.
The job of caregiver falls more
often on women. They are two and a half times more likely than men to be that
caregiver who provides the around the clock care for a loved one who is in the
late stages of the disease. These female caregivers are made up of daughters,
wives, siblings, friends, and in younger onset—mothers. In a study of
caregivers, indications are that females are substantially more likely than
males to provide intimate personal care for their loved one with Alzheimer’s.
Just like me, other women caregivers take on bathing, dressing, toileting, and
changing adult diapers.
Caring for a loved one is hard work
and stressful. Women report a higher level of emotional stress than men (62
percent vs. 52 percent) and greater physical stress (47 percent vs. 24
percent).
Women’s employment is affected
adversely by caregiving. Twice as many women as men give up employment entirely
to be caregivers. Seven times as many women as men go from working full-time to
part-time in order to be a caregiver.
I was in my forties when Jim developed
dementia and worked full-time. Quitting work wasn’t an option for me. There
were times when the challenges of juggling a job and caregiving seemed
overwhelming. Jim required only about four hours of sleep at night and
that meant that I often went to work sleep deprived and emotionally drained.
When I hired caregivers to come into my home, they would often arrive late, or call at the last minute that they couldn’t come. Because they were undependable, it made me, as an employee, feel undependable too. Fortunately, my employer allowed me the flexibility I needed to work around caregiving issues. They knew that from time-to-time I would receive a phone call and have to go home to tend to the latest challenge—wandering, refusing to let someone else do something for him, or just to comfort him when he was scared or depressed.
When I hired caregivers to come into my home, they would often arrive late, or call at the last minute that they couldn’t come. Because they were undependable, it made me, as an employee, feel undependable too. Fortunately, my employer allowed me the flexibility I needed to work around caregiving issues. They knew that from time-to-time I would receive a phone call and have to go home to tend to the latest challenge—wandering, refusing to let someone else do something for him, or just to comfort him when he was scared or depressed.
I was young compared to most women
who cared for spouses with Alzheimer’s. When I found myself feeling
defeated, I couldn’t help but wonder how elderly ladies managed full-time caregiving.
Think about it—as a woman you are
more likely to be a caregiver for a loved one with Alzheimer’s, and then, after
years of caregiving, you are more likely to develop the disease. We women have a
large stake in ending Alzheimer’s. Our brains matter to us, and we want to keep
them healthy throughout our lifetimes. We need to join together as women, as
caring people, as advocates to end Alzheimer’s now.
copyright © March 2014 by L.S.
Fisher
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