As I brought in groceries from my
car, I looked like a bag lady. I carried as many bags as I could to cut down on
the number of trips from the garage to the kitchen. Yesterday, I juggled four
bags into the house and prepared to set them on the counter. I manhandled the
gallon of milk and a sack of cans onto the counter. I lifted the lighter bag
with a carton of eggs in it and prepared to set it beside the other bags. The
plastic bag slipped out of my hands and the eggs fell to the floor.
I heard a distinct splat and knew
that some of the eggs had prematurely met a sad end. I picked up the carton and
at first glance, they all looked fine. One by one, I plucked the eggs out of
the carton and examined them. Of the eighteen eggs, fourteen were broken on the
bottom, but four had survived unscathed.
The eggs all suffered the same
disaster and all the eggs were fragile. It seems to me that the fate of the eggs
is a life lesson. Not one single person makes it through life without
catastrophe.
Your struggles are different from
mine. Your heartaches, failures, insecurities, relationships, health problems, and
worries are different. Everything that happened in your life—good and bad—made you
the unique person you are. Your ability to overcome adversity determines
whether you are a survivor and not a victim.
I’ve noticed that ninety-nine things
can go right, but the one thing that goes wrong will haunt me. I can remember
how hyped I was when the Alzheimer’s Association chapter office decided to give
Alzheimer’s Anthology of Unconditional
Love to our state legislators. I had collected stories from caregivers and
persons with dementia, and the chapter staff chose the best stories to include
in the book. I spent about a year on the project and invested my energy into editing
these heart-felt stories.
I was recognized on the floor of the
Missouri house and received a House Resolution from my representative. What
should have been one of the happiest days in my life was ruined when a fellow
advocate met me in the hallway. “If my chapter hadn’t told me to give away this
book, I wouldn’t have because…” She went on to say something that wasn’t true.
I tried to show her where she was mistaken, but she wasn’t interested in what I
had to say. She had already made up her mind and didn’t even hear me. That one
negative comment stung, and I came close to deciding in that moment that I wasn’t
going to publish any more books.
It’s obvious that this one negative
Nelly did not change the trajectory of my life. I overcame my self-doubt and began
blogging shortly after this experience. The day I started my blog, I thought
long and hard before pushing that “publish” button.
One of the biggest hurdles to
overcome if you want to leave the past behind is self-doubt. We all fail and
fall short of our aspirations. If you notice someone who apparently leads a
charmed life, just know that appearances can be deceptive. Survivors are often
broken people who pick up the pieces and glue them back together. Human
survivors may look fine on the outside, but inside, they hurt from unhealed
wounds.
I cracked one of those “survivor” eggs
into the skillet this morning. The egg looked perfect on the outside, but the
yolk was broken and it was scrambled on the inside.
Copyright © February 2019 by L.S.
Fisher
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